I thought I was an Autumn of some sort. I told anyone who’d listen. Nobody disagreed. Who wants to get into an argument that has nothing in it for them? Who knew any different if they never saw me dressed as Summer, Winter, and Spring?
Compliments can tell us the truth of how we are seen by others or what others think we want to hear, but we can’t tell which. We train everyone around us to treat us in a certain way to maintain the relationship on an even keel. Nobody wants to deal with rough waters.
The purpose of compliments is to make you feel good or better, from people who care about your feelings more than your looks, even if you told them not to, except for children. I reward mine for straight up truth because it’s such a difficult thing to find.
P. said something brilliant about magazines,
I read them because they told me how I could be fixed up. I knew I had to be fixed up because they told me so and gave me tips on how to do it. It never crossed my mind that they were wrong and I was ok. I was too busy being too much of this and not enough of that and didn’t look at all like…..
The top one looks chubby and out of focus. The lower photo is wearing the same amount of makeup, weighs the same, and is 2 years older. Who owns her life and her choices? Who is in control? Who’s dulling herself down and playing it safe? Where is the impact? Which one made any impression?
You answered these 5 questions within 2 seconds of reading them.
Within 4 seconds of meeting me, you’ve decided if I appear to be worth my fee. Based on what I look like, our whole relationship will be influenced by how my appearance feels in that 4 seconds.
When we meet someone, we are deciding, how committed am I to this person? How much commitment am I willing to make and how much risk will I take?
Which woman would garner more trust? more money?
Which woman has stepped into and claimed her power?
me on the left with the blonde highlights that cost me money and time for more years than I want to think about
still too warm but better, more real, more knowable, more see-able
Once we see ourselves in our own colours, many women laugh and cry to release the relief. Our skin can breathe and relax, and so can everyone looking at us.
next to my (Dark Autumn) Dad, I appear to be not in focus, as if I’m not fully present or positioned further back than he is, because our visual system expects closer things to be clearer
I always get the feeling from this photo that my dog, Jesse, is more connected to my real colouring than my own clothing choices; colour analysis is so NOT about what you spend, it’s about what you choose among items that all cost the same
Do not wear makeup for the right reasons. If the makeup counter is scary, and believe me, the sales staff is often scary to me, then that’s the wrong reasons. Decline having your colours analyzed, but for the right reasons. If it feels too vain, you missed the boat a little. That’s not really the point. It’s about not placing inadvertent barriers or sending out wrong signals about who you are. When we have so little time to know one another, what matters is that we’re honest.
still finding my way, still not sure, which you can see instantly from my face; at times, my hair went too dark or it went too red; I couldn’t see myself well but I forced myself to try; between this and the one above, which is better? which woman is fully in the room? this is a very different eye colour from the first picture
They say that the more we know, the more we realize how little we know. In the early images, I thought I looked fine. As my appearance comes into focus, I have begun the understand the size of the space in which I can move.
Keep moving forward. Living to my highest potential keeps my 80 year old self pleased with me. The ultimate in authenticity is to be accepted for our truth, as we really are. Colour analysis puts you in touch with that possibility, with every person in your life.