I adore children above anything. I am in awe of how much is held in waiting, ready to unfold, like little cocoons. When people bring them to their vet appointment, it’s all I can do to pay attention to the animal. I love the faces below.
Are gentle. They can hold a small bird in their hands.
Have a lot of very tiny toys with which they play intricate games. Their homes have beautiful details in every room, right down to the toilet paper holder. The season of miniaturization. Often look better in small jewelry than large and chunky.
Take pains to get every meticulous detail of a picture right. Even a picture the size of a window. They will draw patiently, tiny line by tiny line. Can spend hours finding microscopic snails in tidal pools with great hand-eye control when they spot one.
One activity at a time is plenty. Learn a music piece note by note. Do not need to be in constant motion. As a child, ask him to mince the herbs. As an adult, this is the cook who peels squash, who cooks the chickpeas for the hummus from scratch, or who undertakes all 22 of the steps in making Matzoh Ball Soup.
Can get so frustrated with their Winter sibling’s harshness and Spring sibling’s impracticality that they need time in their room alone to calm down. Like about 2-3 hours. Five kids on a trampoline is 3 and 3/4 too many.
Very persistent till they get it right. Perseverance ranks at the top of the chart.
Do not force their beliefs on others but do not accept anyone else’s ideas either. Sweet, pleasant, calm stonewalls.
Good impulse control from an early age. The first to learn to shake hands when introduced to someone new. As grownups, still have a self-control that astounds.
Ask question after question after question. If a family rule is, No more questions after supper, there are probably True Summer children in the home.
The most likely to keep your secret. Very discrete as adults.
Can be fusspots for cleanliness. Will not be thrilled to eat the birthday cake upon which five children blew out the candles, or even one other child. The mother may have brought a separate cake. Having a bottle of hand sanitizer clipped to your backpack should be a school rule.
Light Summer likes to talk almost as much as a Spring, but she’ll tell the entire story, and (this part’s important) (really important), in order. Thorough is the word here. She will be easily hurt and irritated if her Autumn sister hijacks the topic to tell her side and interrupts the orderly sequence of her thoughts. For Light and True Summer, it has to go 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, and not 1, 2, 3, 4, 4, 5, 7, 6. Autumn and Winter have more 1,2, 9, 10 tendencies. True Summer will explore every conjugation of a verb, could have, might have, and every option and outcome.
Drawn to quality in clothing. Will notice stitching and buttons.
Ask a Summer, How do you feel about..? Ask a Winter, What do you think about…? Ask an Autumn, What’s the most efficient way to get this done? And Spring, What’s the fastest way to get this done so we can have a visit?
Summer does not like to live alone. Their sense of community, civic responsibility, and desire for domestic intimacy is strong. Winter fantasizes about living alone and takes more convincing to leave their computer.
If True Summer is indecisive, it’s because they want to do the rightest thing. If True Spring is, it is because she wants every choice. Autumn decides fast to get it done. Winter didn’t see that there were more than two choices to begin with.
True Summers are wonderful teenagers. Their very high sense of personal integrity doesn’t let them fall into, or even be attracted by, that which doesn’t agree with their moral code. They can easily exclude peer pressure when they want to.
Don’t love changes in their routine. As a child, might have been very unhappy when forced to wear new clothes. Might even have been screeching NOOOOOO so loud after being put in a new snowsuit as a 2 year old that they got left in a snowbank by their Dark Winter mother when she went down the driveway to get the mail. Not that that would happen in my house, but you could hear the child loud and clear. As a grownup, might be very happy married to a Spring who can get them to do things they wouldn’t normally do, especially on short notice, a sticking point for Summer.
As adults, they may still have high expectations of what others should tolerate or how they should behave. A tub of Ben&Jerry’s ice cream really does have 4 to 6 servings and it is not necessary to snarf down more than one’s share.
Are willing to devote time and effort to getting others to meet their highest self, knowing that nobody feels good when they behave beneath themselves. Winter might not be quite so into your Karma because to them, it feels like an ambush intended to control that they won’t exert on you and don’t want you to exercise on them. If old people want to go ocean swimming alone, it’s their business.
Bring the natural gift of knowing what it’s like to be the other guy, and caring enough to adjust their behaviour, what the world needs more of than anything. Every character trait is a double edged sword. Empathy is no different. Winter keeps themselves apart and outside of situations. If no offense was intended by spoken words, they’re not likely to hear it. It’s not that Winter is cold/distant/remote, their feelings are just less accessible. Summer is so deeply disturbed by rudeness and so strongly empathic that they substitute the intention of the spoken words as their own, as they would have felt had they spoken the same words, that is, very offended.