I Shop For You

Knowing what we want is the first step to getting it.

Otherwise, we’re unfocussed. All we know is that something feels unsatisfying or unsettled. With even a vague idea about where the solution might lie, we have a way to move towards it.

Having some idea of how we define beauty allows us to attain the look we want. Otherwise, we become blown around by the winds of outside voices and outside forces.

There are no right or wrong answers. Makeup or no makeup; neither is wrong or right.

We want what we want. It doesn’t need to be justified. It needs to be clarified.

Fame and riches? Perfectly fine. They’re not bad or harmful or scarce resources.

Nobody gets to weigh in or approve that what we want is a worthy cause.

They will, of course. That’s our training ground for sticking to our guns or seeing our goals from a new perspective. This is also our training ground for learning to be clear and deliberate about the impact we allow others to have in our lives. The choice is ours, not theirs. This is an especially fun exercise with family.

Pretending that we don’t want what we want because some judgment or opinion is hanging around means it takes longer to happen, if it ever does.

We always have choices. My nomination for Best Look Award is an appearance that doesn’t look manufactured. The woman’s lip and blush colour might have happened by themselves. The hair could have grown out of that head, the jewelry out of that body. I can look calmly at her face and have a conversation with her eyes, without the feeling that my eyes are zinging around processing pieces of a few puzzles at the same time.

Here are some appearance choices that would yield entirely different results:

  1. We could wear comfort clothes.
  2. We could decide that celebs (and their stylists) are making excellent decisions and follow their lead.
  3. We could look like makeup artists on YouTube.
  4. We could look like our friends. “Nobody is doing pink lips this year.”
  5. We could be true to ourselves.

I choose #5. It took me 50 years and a person in my life with singular clarity (a business coach) to teach me this skill. Besides looking worse with any other choice, I would be failing myself.

Once you locate the road that leads you to yourself, other paths are no longer a real option.

True to me becomes your rudder when you don’t know what to do next. When the road branches, you know which way to go: this choice is more true to me than that choice. As your skills grow, the choices narrow, and your appearance slowly becomes the physical manifestation of your energy field. Now there is a woohoo moment, as much to see it as to be it.

My colour analysis clients receive a list of questions one week before the appointment. One of the questions (actually all of them, from various directions) ask what they want to achieve with their appearance choices.

A recent client amazed me by saying Integrity. When I asked what she meant by that, she replied, “I want to dress like my true self with my real purpose.” I thought I heard angels sing.

The psychology of appearance. Is that a career?

The day following her analysis, the client said, “I feel like my look is so different but also that it just feels like the look I’m supposed to have.”

If your choice is to dress true to yourself, you still need a way in.

Sometimes, you know your choice but you can’t find the entrance, any entrance, a way to get started.

If looking like your true self is your choice, colour analysis is an entrance.

Colour analysis connects the interior with the exterior, like getting the entire border of a 1000 piece puzzle placed in one afternoon. No big deal? What if it were a magic puzzle? All the pieces are the same colour until they get closer to one another. Then they start to shift in colour and shape!

I could tell you that this is the colour analyst’s world. In a way, it is. But in the (approximate) words of one of my heroines, Flavia de Luce (in Alan Bradley‘s As Chimney Sweepers Come to Dust), it wouldn’t be right of me to let you think that science is magic.

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16 thoughts on “I Shop For You”

  1. Hi Christine,

    Happy 2018!

    I’m very much looking forward to the resurrected I Shop for You newsletter.

    Laura

  2. This is a very thought provoking post with perfect timing for me. A new path may be the better path, but the old one is comfortable and familiar. How do you know you can trust the compass when it has steered you in the wrong direction a time or two? How does one know they are traveling on the right path if the scenery is so unfamiliar?

  3. Wow, a 12 season-inspired newsletter sounds wonderful, Christine, will so look forward to learning more in order to pull it all together. You are amazing in all you do. Thank you ❣️

  4. SO happy to hear. I remember the Money Well Spent and I’ve missed it so I will definitely look forward to this.

  5. My apologies — I realized that my original reply to this post may have seemed that I was referring to “I Shop for You.” However, it was regarding my experiences with color analysis in general.

  6. Looking forward to this newsletter!

    By the way, is it possible to purchase back issues of Signature/Style? I’d like to buy them for my sister.

  7. Hi Christine,
    Not sure if you’re prepared to discuss the selections in the I Shop for You Newsletter…which is wonderful btw. If you are, two BrSpring questions popped up, both about the intense blue cardigan you showed for BrWinter. That’s a colour range that I’m very drawn to and have used as a navy especially for winter and spring seasons. Can you help me understand why it wouldn’t be the right choice? Too intense? And the red version you suggested for BrSpring surprised me, didn’t know I had any reds. So I must have missed something along the way. Any suggestions you have for educating myself further would be appreciated. Thanks for doing this, it’s such a help in training my eyes.

  8. Really enjoyed the first installment of I Shop For You that I received today. It’s most helpful to see items for each season that have been selected via online shopping by you, Christine, a top professional color analyst/teacher. The descriptions help me see what you are seeing. Thank you!!!

  9. I am a BSp also and was wondering the same thing as LauraH about the recommendation regarding the red cardigan. How is yhe blue cardigan not BSp? My eye was also drawn to the TSp yellow dress. How is BSp’s yellow different? Is my yellow brighter? Thanks in advance Christine for this newsletter and for all your hard work. I look forward to your response!

  10. The blue cardigan could work for any of the 3 Winters and Bright Spring. There are colours very similar to it in all four palettes and the picture doesn’t offer enough information to make the choice. You’d probably have to try it in person, but all four Seasons would probably find far more about the colour that works for them than they would find reasons to decline it. Also, Bright Spring is a little softer than Bright Winter, and the muting effect of woven textile will help calm the intensity. If it were plastic though, it might still work with Spring’s ability to wear smooth shine well. A lot to like and you’re right to seek it out. Thank you for pointing this out, I’ll give more attention to ‘who else could wear this?’, which is a big part of Season and shopping.
    I hear you about the red cardi, Laura. The product images and client images are (almost always) very different on that site (or any site, such is photography) and I go with the product images. In this case, I should have looked more closely at the client images, because they are taken in various types of lighting and average much cooler than the product, either too blue or too saturated or too dark for Bright Spring, depending on the image. In the product image on my screen, the colour is more orange than red and actually looks pretty good with the yellow print blouse. Whether the blouse is Autumn or Spring, it gave me the idea that it was quite warm and the cardi would be as well.
    The yellow dress, Cristina, could be either. TSp yellows are more peachy or orange. As Winter cools BSp yellows, they become a little greener and sharper. But in this case, it just doesn’t matter. Spring wears yellow with ease and in the progression between the Seasons, there will be a boundary where a colour like this is so close to the line that both wear it well.

  11. If they’re not home, they’re close enough to form good relationships with your wardrobe. The T shirt is a bit more than the pants (which appear soft by comparison), so that’s about right for BSp. They don’t seem softened enough to be Autumn or peach enough for Tsp. It’s really hard to be precise about the type of softness from images but they seem fine. The palette colours are a bit stronger than the pants on my screen and if that were really obvious IRL and the pants actually look faded next to the other garments, this might not be the best purchase. If the pants hold their own, they could work well.

  12. Thank you so much for your reply to my questions, really appreciate it. Training my eye is ongoing and I Shop for You is a wonderful aid.

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